Psychology of conflicts

At the beginning, I would like to mention that speaking about conflicts it is not enough to give a simple definition for understanding it. Concept conflict includes wide area and various situations. We can characterize it as a real war between countries or nations, also, as a daily arguments which lead us when we communicate with family or in job. What is more, I suppose, non of us has been lucky to avoid conflicts with our Selves. There is no doubt that from childhood people try to form their persona. It is what psychologist C.G.Jung defined as the appearance we present to the world. So, we represent ourselves as it is appropriate to our consciousness. An important point, is that it becomes very hard to admit features we don't accept as real ones. What is more, all these discrepancies are repressed into unconscious. But to say the truth, all instinctive impulses always try to be put up into our rational mental set. That is way people are made to confront their negative, unacceptable side. And then conflicts are unavoidable. Furthermore, persona, which has been called "conformity archetype" by C.G.Jung, can explain our abilities to adopt social roles. When people argue they often emphasize that they are what they are and can not, or don't want, to exchange never. Unfortunately, not always we can appreciate it as strength of personality. We live in the world which is stable only because of compromise we achieve in any ambiguous situation. The way we are able to apply our persona, to change its "masks" is the way we can use social skills, debate and find compromises. It is the most important thing trying to avoid conflicts. And it has to be learned. Besides, for some of us conflicts are like competition, pleasing activity. Still, it depends only on capacities to master our behavior when we are in public life. Many psychologists claim that people are aggressive by nature. For example, A.Adler thinks it is a reaction to realized worthlessness which raises an ambitions compensate helplessness by blindly reaching the power, recognition or triumph. I suppose, it is quite obvious that a lot of conflicts come only because of desire to show one's strength. It is a pity, that examples of this idea we can see in policy, social life. International conflicts in many cases are made to satisfy somebody's aggressive features of temper. In conclusion, it is a fact that the truth arrives from arguments and debates. But people should respect each others. Only then rational disputes will not grow to conflicts.