Psychology of conflicts

At the beginning, I would like to mention that speaking about conflicts it is not enough to give a simple definition for understanding it. Concept conflict includes wide area and various situations. We can characterize it as a real war between countries or nations, also, as a daily arguments which lead us when we communicate with family or in job. What is more, I suppose, non of us has been lucky to avoid conflicts with our Selves. There is no doubt that from childhood people try to form their persona. It is what psychologist C.G.Jung defined as the appearance we present to the world. So, we represent ourselves as it is appropriate to our consciousness. An important point, is that it becomes very hard to admit features we don't accept as real ones. What is more, all these discrepancies are repressed into unconscious. But to say the truth, all instinctive impulses always try to be put up into our rational mental set. That is way people are made to confront their negative, unacceptable side. And then conflicts are unavoidable. Furthermore, persona, which has been called "conformity archetype" by C.G.Jung, can explain our abilities to adopt social roles. When people argue they often emphasize that they are what they are and can not, or don't want, to exchange never. Unfortunately, not always we can appreciate it as strength of personality. We live in the world which is stable only because of compromise we achieve in any ambiguous situation. The way we are able to apply our persona, to change its "masks" is the way we can use social skills, debate and find compromises. It is the most important thing trying to avoid conflicts. And it has to be learned. Besides, for some of us conflicts are like competition, pleasing activity. Still, it depends only on capacities to master our behavior when we are in public life. Many psychologists claim that people are aggressive by nature. For example, A.Adler thinks it is a reaction to realized worthlessness which raises an ambitions compensate helplessness by blindly reaching the power, recognition or triumph. I suppose, it is quite obvious that a lot of conflicts come only because of desire to show one's strength. It is a pity, that examples of this idea we can see in policy, social life. International conflicts in many cases are made to satisfy somebody's aggressive features of temper. In conclusion, it is a fact that the truth arrives from arguments and debates. But people should respect each others. Only then rational disputes will not grow to conflicts.

Psychology of laziness

To begin with, I would like to say that laziness, concerned with loss of desire to work generally, nowadays can not be called phenomenon. It is commonplace to hear that one is saying he is lazy. In addition, there are six reasons or faults of being lazy posted at a sing near a Burmese Buddhist temple, that sounds like that: it is too cold, too hot, too late, too early, I am to hungry, too full. So, what psychological reasons can be found for such a motiveless explanation? Of course, we should take into account, probability of pathology. Laziness can appear as indifference of emotional, social and physical life in apathy. This disorder sometimes is a reaction to stress when it manifests as learned helplessness. That means, people believe they still can not do anything, and so, they don't. It is high time, to mention that laziness can be not only physical. I am not going to talk about natural tiredness. For example, Intellectual laziness is absolutely psychological problem. It is also concerned with learned helplessness and thinking that something negative will prevent us to act. More over, for this kind of laziness it is typical feature to follow the crowd. By the way, cultural and social influence here plays a vitally important role. Obviously, in countries, where socialism, totalitarianism instead of liberal government dominate, people's psyche is affected forget any activity, expression. Furthermore, even phenomenon in psychology, when neither witness takes an initiative in an accident, contrarily, if person is alone, is caused because of universally common motivation that another person can do better, so I won't do anything at all. Secondly, let's discuss another aspects of laziness that are defined as emotional. They comes as a feeling that life is meaningless, our initiative is wrong, or as cynicism, therefore, one acts as unemotional. I suppose, it covers psychological problems of motivation. One of the highest need for the human being, according to psychologist Maslow, is self-realization. Unfortunately, for lazy people it is enough to satisfy their physiological needs. Maybe, explanation for it could be features of character as inadequacy, being superficial, what can be caused by many outer factors. For summarizing everything up, laziness as symptom, not mental factor, is people's problem of being unambitious, irresolute. After all, in big part it is influence of culture which treats person as a slight element in mass. But for all of as goal of life should be becoming personality, what is incompatible with neither type of laziness.

Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence includes skills of getting along well with others and ourselves. Speaking about emotional expression, term emotional literacy is used. It is defined as ability to express feelings with specific feeling words, in 3 word sentences. For example, I feel unappreciated. We need this ability to clarify and identify feelings. More over, emotional literacy we use to determine our emotional needs. Let me emphasize, that it is very important to develop these needs in order to find what is important for us and how can we achieve best results especially in learning, career, or some activity. Of course, as many people as many different basic needs. One wishes only to satisfy physiological needs as feed, sleep. While others may need independence, challenges, knowledge, or maybe to be understood, loved. There is no doubt, that in collective work somebody's needs wouldn't be pleased. This tendency, unfortunately, appears also in schools among children, universities, jobs. Still, we can find another problem associated with emotional needs and literacy. It is always hard to speak about that. Firstly, directly to express how one feels is unacceptable. Secondly, emotions and needs are personal, that's why it is difficult to think about them by ourselves, more over, say to another's. To say the true, all of us should more often use the basic feelings words. For example, comfortable, loved, happy, relaxed, worthy and so on. Of course, each feeling, and my mentioned positive ones, has its it negative equivalent: uncomfortable, hated, angry, frustrated, unworthy, etc. At last, I would like to speak about Emotional tests. They measures not only our emotionality but also can say a lot about characters. When I have done one of these test I have found that I am quite emotional person. But for real, it was the test about emotions people represent in working. So, it was kind of hard to decide what answers would be the most right. Some of them said that I could be more tolerant with people I have business, and others suggested I could be great manager. To conclude, I suppose it is obviously that emotional intelligence is not less important as general one. People should also learn to demonstrate what they feel, express those feelings politely and be empathic.